Traumatic birth, more than four years later

[ailbhe]

Well, I still cry. Who knew?

Today I'm thinking about Ways People Said It Was My Own Fault So I Deserved It (and incidentally, if it's all my fault, it means it couldn't happen to an innocent person, like, oooh, them).

- I didn't consent to a c-section (actually, I did, in writing, when they forced me to)

- I should have had the baby in Ireland

- I should have had the baby at home (except that when that was tentatively suggested antenatally it was shouted down srsly)

- I should have refused consent to / consented earlier to some / all of the interventions

- I should have realised that I had gestational diabetes and that's why my baby was so big (this one still knocks me sideways)

These Romans are crazy.

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[barakta]

My mum had people (little old ladies, otherwise nice polite human beings) telling her that I was born disabled for at least the following:

She must've drank too much in pregancy

She must've taken prescribed/non-prescribed drugs

She must have been evil/not Christian enough/other religious foulness of choice.

Interestingly I still get people asking if my disabilities are "cos my mum took pillz/drank/other". My usual response is to ask "if it was pills/drink/other how do you think I should answer this!?". That usually shuts them up.