So what do you think?

[ailbhe]

I've heard this sentiment a few times in the recent past - say the past six months or so:

"If she didn't want to be woken up by sex, she should have told him so before."

Comments

[dangerpudding.livejournal.com]

Without discussion and consent, it's not ok. On the other hand, I do think that with those things it can be - I'm pretty clear with my partners that I'm ok with things like that, and the case where I wouldn't be is a rare one-off, so I'd be ok with telling them as it woke me up. On the other hand, I don't think it would get very far without me waking up.