So what do you think?

[ailbhe]

I've heard this sentiment a few times in the recent past - say the past six months or so:

"If she didn't want to be woken up by sex, she should have told him so before."

Comments

[elissaann.livejournal.com]

I prefer this one to be opt-in, rather than opt-out. Sex without my consent is called rape.

[rjw76]

Emphatically agreed; I'm sure there are many couples who are fine with it, but as with all sexual matters, you should *talk about it first*. Which is a sentiment sadly lacking in far too many people.

Um. It also strikes me as somewhat uncomfortable; odds are there'd be something of a lack of lubrication, surely?

[ailbhe]

Not if gentle foreplay preceded the sex - say not enough to wake someone but enough to elicit a physical reaction. I *think* that kind of thing is why people think it's somehow consensual.

[rjw76]

Mm. Maybe I'm odd then, but I'd wake up the second someone touched me. But then I am quite a light sleeper.

[elissaann.livejournal.com]

I gave my partner verbal consent for this, and I would be appalled if he thought it was okay without previous consent. In fact, I shall ask him what he thinks.

A bottle of lubricant on the bedside table is a useful thing.

[elisem.livejournal.com]

I prefer this one to be opt-in, rather than opt-out. Sex without my consent is called rape.

EXACTLY.

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

Yes, exactly.