W-day -25

[ailbhe]

Seating plan.

What do I do about babies? Do I provide a seat for their carry-cot and no place setting? How do I know whether the baby is old enough for a high chair?

What do I do about shy people who only know me and no-one else at the whole wedding?

How rude is it to put a baby's high-chair next to its parent and a stranger, if the stranger has a take-it-or-leave-it attitude to babies?

General.

What if some of the kids are ill-disciplined or annoying? Can I drown them? We've sort of had to invite some children whom we actually don't know, so that their parents are able to attend - not having the parents there would leave us married in the legal sense, but would be quite unsatisfying.

Why don't we know more men? Well over half the guests will be female.

If I am providing one room with no music, but smoking allowed, and one room with music and no smoking allowed, and a small room with neither allowed and an armchair for nursing mothers, have I left any rooms out? I can get one more very small room, but I honestly can't think of any use for it that wouldn't be more fun back at the hotel. (Yes, there are bathrooms!)

Whose responsibility is it to ensure that a guest can leave and come back at intervals as she may be somewhat poorly (8 months pregnant and the first one had Complications)? Do I have to get her a taxi? Pay for it? Arrange to have someone friendly drive her to and fro? Neither one of us drives.

I am not panicking. I am not panicking. I am procrastinating study.

Comments

[megabitch.livejournal.com]

Seating plan: Babies/kidlets: Ask, the other suggestion about under vs over 6 months old is good, but do check as babies vary (as do parents) :) Personally, if the child is not yet on solid foods, or is still on pureed stuff, I wouldn't worry about a seat - but perhaps make sure there's space for a push-chair.

Shy people: depends why they're shy... if it's just because they don't know anyone, then put them with a gregarious bunch who will include them. If it's because they have an overwhelming fear of strangers... perhaps with an equally quiet group :)

Babies & strangers: If you can, try and put baby between parents or parent/sibling/other-relative. Some people have no patience for babies... then again, some of us get clucky at the drop of a hat :)

General: kids being more than boisterous: delegate a bridesmaid/sister or other friend to jump on them, Or to jump on the parents for not watching them/keeping them under control - if it's D, jump on him :)

Men: I dunno... I know more men than women. Is it the multiple sister effect?

Rooms: sounds great. remember, most wedding receptions involve one large room and that's about it.

Responsibility: um... she's an adult, I presume? It's hers. Perhaps making sure she has the number for local taxi company/whatever. If she is that likely to be unwell, I would hardly expect her to attend without making appropriate arrangements - I know I wouldn't were I in that situation.

Let me get one thing clear here.... YOU ARE THE BRIDE!!! On your wedding day you are expected to look radiant, smile a lot, and do absolutely sod all except enjoy yourself. You are NOT allowed to worry about what else is happening. That's what bridesmaids and Best Man / groomsmen are for :) Ideally, if the whole building was under risk of collapsing, you, as the bride, shouldn't even notice until you are whisked into the waiting car and off to an alternative venue :) Okay, that's less likely to happen in real life, but you get my point :)