"Getting to know you, getting to feel free and easy..."

[ailbhe]

I have a little list of people I'd like to get to know better. Trouble seems to be, I don't deal well with "group > 3 people" situations, and it's not really Done to set up tiny meetings of people one doesn't really know in order to get to know them better (sudden thought - it's ok for people who are Dating, but not for people who want friends. Whyso?).

Also in addition as well, I find it difficult to talk to people I admire greatly; I invest a lot in their opinion of me and am often afraid, in real life, of doing or saying anything which might tarnish their opinion. I get upset when their feet of clay show up, too.

I'll think about this more later. Wanted to get it out there.

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getting to know you

[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

it isn't Done? darn, why didn't anybody tell me. that's how i get to know most people. i'll ask them whether they'd like to join me for some activity; usually i pick something in which they've shown some prior interest. since i am interested in just about anything if somebody else is enthusiastic about it, that's pretty easy for me. i tend not to have this confused with a "date" because i am pretty outspoken about not dating. :)

i've also come right out and said "i'd like to get to know you better because there is all this cool stuff i know about you and i think we could be friends. would you be interested in that?" and i don't have problems anymore admitting when something is awkward -- it actually tends to be an ice breaker because lots of people find this sort of thing awkward and wonder how to go about it.