Bang goes that idea

[ailbhe]

Well, Rob and I aren't going to get to go out. He worked late last night / this morning so will have to get to bed early tonight, and tomorrow he's scheduled to work late again.

Keeping track of his overtime doesn't help much because he never takes the time off in lieu for normal stuff, he just uses it for appointments and similar. So the domestic side of things never gets caught up.

WHY is work the ultimate priority for everyone? Even when it's past 1 am and you're expected in work at 8:30 am? It doesn't seem *right* that he can't schedule his TOIL for sleeping in, rather than having to eat into our one realistic chance to go out as a couple since four weeks before Linnea was born.

Plus, I've just discovered that my mother-in-law has a key to my house, without my having known about it.

Comments

[flybabydizzy.livejournal.com]

yup, have been there, done that with my dh working all hours, disrupting family plans and routines. I have to admit, though, I am sure he used to pull a fast one, and arrange to work so we didnt get to do something he didnt actually want to do. Once, when kids were 1 and 4, I insisted we went away for a week's holiday - when he got back, someone else had their feet under his desk, and he'd been moved to another site, 60 miles away. That, of course, was my fault, as I was not playing the game.
I also suffered when I worked a few years ago. I got a part time job as deputy manageress of a charity shop. Then the boss left 2 months later, so I had to cover his job, on my hourly rate, but without a deputy to work my day off, and not properly trained. I was very short of volunteers in the shop, many had special needs, so I was having to look after them while doing my own job. I ended up working 10 hours a day, 6 days a week, on minumum wage. Eventually I was given the job as manager, so a pay rise of 50p per hour, but still no deputy. Eventually I was sacked, because I was not keeping the shop tidy enough, despite having increased turnover by 50% on the previous year. I haven't worked since.
As for the keys...
Holy Shit!!!
That is SO not on!
It would be one thing to accidentally take a key home, but she should have told you immediately that she had it. It is a damn cheek, an invasion of privacy and respect. etc, etc, I know I'm singing to the choir here!
2 suggestions

either, at the end of her stay, ask for the key back as you need it to give to xxx, as she will be popping in to zzzz, if you have to go in to hospital
or - and this is what Les did to someone once who had an illicit key to his office -
identify the key while she is out of the room, asleep, or whatever, then take a file to it, file off one lug, just so it will not open the door. She will still have the key, but oh dear, it doesnt work...