Bang goes that idea

[ailbhe]

Well, Rob and I aren't going to get to go out. He worked late last night / this morning so will have to get to bed early tonight, and tomorrow he's scheduled to work late again.

Keeping track of his overtime doesn't help much because he never takes the time off in lieu for normal stuff, he just uses it for appointments and similar. So the domestic side of things never gets caught up.

WHY is work the ultimate priority for everyone? Even when it's past 1 am and you're expected in work at 8:30 am? It doesn't seem *right* that he can't schedule his TOIL for sleeping in, rather than having to eat into our one realistic chance to go out as a couple since four weeks before Linnea was born.

Plus, I've just discovered that my mother-in-law has a key to my house, without my having known about it.

Comments

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

I agree with you on all of this. And my reaction to the key situation is a big "!" I mean, we're fairly relaxed about handing out keys to our house, but I'd still never do it without checking with djm4 and aegidian first. We like to know who might suddenly appear in the hall while we're walking around in a towel!

[ailbhe]

Rob thinks he loaned a key to his dad one day and it wasn't returned and his dad gave it to his mother. Ever since she came to our flat in Wapping unannounced to use the loo and have a snoop around, she has not been allowed her own key to our house; he certainly didn't give this to her deliberately.

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

Oh, I see. Apologies for misunderstanding :-)

[ailbhe]

Oh, and she came while were were out at work, not while we were there. We found out when she called to comment on the state of the housework.

[nex0s.livejournal.com]

We found out when she called to comment on the state of the housework.

AGH!

n.

[cherade9.livejournal.com]

I can't tell you how ikky and horrible that makes me feel for you. My parents had a key for my first house, and misused it a few times, going through our bills and complaining to me about the state of the house etc. When we moved they didn't get another key, and had to phone whenever they intended to visit.

None of my in laws have or will ever have a key for our house!

Does your MIL have problems accepting your boundaries?

Liz A.

[barakta]

That is shocking! We only have two keys for our house and are wary of getting more cut cos of rental agreements.

I still have a key to my mum's house, but ALWAYS phone her in advance if I want to stop off en route to Manchester, or borrow her driveway, or fix stuff for her or use her toilet en route somewhere or rest there. If I don't know in advance that I wish to use her house I always SMS her to say "Can we use your house please". If SMses aren't replied to, I always leave a note to say "We were here, did X (fixed X) and will phone later, thanks".