The meme: answers

[ailbhe]

How do you pronounce your name and those of your daughters?

"Ailbhe," "Emer," and "Linnea."

Or ALv[uh], EEMurr, and LinNAYah.

What's your absolute top number one favourite outfit?

Does not compute. What's my favourite colour? What's my favourite book? Who is my favourite person? What's my favourite food? I don't think I'm really a favourite kind of liker.

I choose what to wear based partially on what feels good, partially on what expresses good feelings, and partially on not getting laughed at in the street. That last may well be the smallest part.

bluekieran once said that my personal style statement is Children's Television Presenter and I've always rather liked that.


Would you tell the Ailbhe and Rob love story in poem form?

I doubt it. Would you really like me to?

With the damage done to you after Linnea's birth, is sex still enjoyable for you?

Yes. Working without much genital sensation adds the odd challenge, and the loss of clitoral sensation sometimes makes me cry, but yes, sex can still be enjoyable.

Thank you for the phrasing; much of the long-term damage was indeed done after she was out, and phrasing it that way makes me not in the least inclined to wonder whether you blame her in any way. (Lots of people refer to it as "what she did to [me].")

Comments

[serene]

That last bit made me weepy. *Hugs*

[ailbhe]

Thank you.

[tiggsybabes.livejournal.com]

This is what we, as mothers, need to be careful over.

My mother has very bad stretch marks on her stomach & as far back as I can remember, she told me it was my fault for having kicked her so much & that my younger brother didn't kick as much & made no new stretch marks. I carried that burden until my own first pregnancy at the age of 32. My mother was jelous & remarked that it was so unfair that I had no stretch marks on my own stomach, to add to my expected guilt levels.

By then, I knew from experience & reading & talking about the subject, that possibly it's all genetics or just one of those things. Possibly it's because I put on a stone & a bit in weight & my mum was very fit, in a manual job beforehand (zoo keeper) whereas I worked in a bank. She put on a lot more weight, so perhaps that's why? My second pregnancy lead to no extra stretchmarks either as I assume I was a bit pre-stretched.

I think my mum had waited years for payback for me to get the same stretchmarks as her. I do have them on my boobs, as went from a B cup up to an E or something & am now a C/ D, whereas my mum stayed at an A cup & is still one now.

So, mum, our bodies are all different.

What my actual point is, that Kate has it in her head that my bad back is her fault, as it does stem from my pregnancy with her, but I've never felt any blame to her & I correct her whenever she says it when I hear. I explain it was from her being inside me, but is not her fault & she's my best girl & in an ideal world, my back would be all fixed again. It's actually from me having a short trunk & there not being much room inside me for a baby to fit in comfortably, so Kate was transverse & as I had poor pregnancy & labour care, it was never taken into consideration.

[cabbagemedley.livejournal.com]

(Lots of people refer to it as "what she did to [me].")

Really!? Fuck.

[ailbhe]

Yeah. Then they ask how Rob is coping with my inability to have sex.

I stop talking to people like that.