What to do?!
Jun. 14th, 2006 11:47 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ailbheLinnea and Is hold hands. Sometimes Linnea takes Is's hand, sometimes Is takes Linnea's. And then they run, grinning and giggling. And Linnea runs about twice as fast as Is so Is falls down and hits her head. And Is doesn't deal with that the way Linnea does; Is immediately yells and screams and is devestated, which is fair enough - I'd be devestated too.
What do I do? Is is the one who gets hurt, so her mother blames Linnea, pretty much. It's happened twice already this morning. I don't think it's Linnea misbehaving - Is reaches for her hand as much as Linnea reaches for Is, so that part of it is consensual. They both grin and giggle as they start to run. It's not for 6-10 feet that the speed difference becomes apparent and Is ends up dragged and falling over.
Is's mother has a babe in arms and I have a babe in bump, so we're not always fast enough to defuse the situation after Linnea gets ahead of Is and before Is falls over. Is gives no early warning of discomfort - never says No, or yells when she's being dragged, she doesn't fuss at all until she's actually hurt.
They're about the same age, but Linnea is bigger and faster and stronger. They adore each other.
Now what?
Edit: New Rule: No running holding hands. Means Linnea can't play it with anyone at the group, which is a shame, but will also mean she doesn't play it with Is any more in a way which doesn't single Is out. So there we go.
Edit: Is's mum called to discuss it rationally. We're going with the blanket rule for about two weeks, and will then see if Is is steadier on her feet or if we need to let Linnea branch out and play it with people who are not Is. I feel a thousand times better. Is's mum may or may not.
What do I do? Is is the one who gets hurt, so her mother blames Linnea, pretty much. It's happened twice already this morning. I don't think it's Linnea misbehaving - Is reaches for her hand as much as Linnea reaches for Is, so that part of it is consensual. They both grin and giggle as they start to run. It's not for 6-10 feet that the speed difference becomes apparent and Is ends up dragged and falling over.
Is's mother has a babe in arms and I have a babe in bump, so we're not always fast enough to defuse the situation after Linnea gets ahead of Is and before Is falls over. Is gives no early warning of discomfort - never says No, or yells when she's being dragged, she doesn't fuss at all until she's actually hurt.
They're about the same age, but Linnea is bigger and faster and stronger. They adore each other.
Now what?
Edit: New Rule: No running holding hands. Means Linnea can't play it with anyone at the group, which is a shame, but will also mean she doesn't play it with Is any more in a way which doesn't single Is out. So there we go.
Edit: Is's mum called to discuss it rationally. We're going with the blanket rule for about two weeks, and will then see if Is is steadier on her feet or if we need to let Linnea branch out and play it with people who are not Is. I feel a thousand times better. Is's mum may or may not.