Good things do happen

[ailbhe]

• No-one has tried to tell us who we must invite.
• No-one has tried to tell us that we must get married in a church. Well, there was one of three parents who was slightly disappointed, I think, but got over it or decided it was our business.
• Only one person has expressed surprise that I'm not changing my name, and that person appears to have accepted it now.
• The food will be more interesting than at most weddings, if not actually better quality.
• I don't have to wear a frilly dress. My dress is very plain and no-one is trying to make me wear a fancy one.
• The champagne will be drinkable and there will be enough of it.
• There will be enough food and tea and coffee.
• Cash bars are ok nowadays, even if I feel churlish for not having free fizzy drinks all day. I've never been to a wedding where there were free soft drinks apart from at the meal itself, as far as I can remember.
• The gift issue isn't really an issue; there is only one person - ok, me too, so two persons - making an issue of it. The other 70-odd people seem quite happy.

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[bopeepsheep.livejournal.com]

We had free soft drinks at ours, but mainly because we were horrified at the prices the hotel bar wanted to charge (much worse than pub prices), and worked out that if we got it all on Buy One Get One Free offers at Sainsburys or wherever, the total for buying it in, plus the corkage charge, worked out cheaper than our buying everyone one small drink each - the original plan had been to put some cash behind the bar for our evening guests, since they'd not had drinks with dinner like everyone else had. Over half our guests were under 18 or teetotal (Methodists) so this was definitely the better option. (And those who wanted to get drunk still did even at the hotel bar prices, so that's their lookout.) It's definitely not expected though, and ours is the only wedding I've heard of it at, too.