> Gaaaah they put her weight in the first sentence or so. So now all the anorexics who read that will think "right, I need to beat that".
I really want to growl at that statement. Growl and stamp my feet, scream and shout.
Not all anorexics are in a competition to be smaller/thinner. There is a significant percentage that are anorexic and it have nothing to do with appearance or weight.
Anorexia is about control or rather lack of control. When your life is spiraling out of control and you need to gain control anorexia can take control. Controlling food may be the only thing in your life you have control over.
Unconsciously it can also be a way to disappear, be invisible or even be a (very slow painful) way to kill yourself.
I'm 38 and although I am a healthy weight now I had 12 years of hell and even now I still consider myself anorexic as every time my life falls apart I have an unhealthy relationship with food.
I've never tried to look like the latest skinny celeb or tried to get to hit a certain mark on the scales, but every time i see/hear those generalizations about my condition it riles me. For years i hid my condition because i was ashamed, scared i would be labeled vain, as the girl who wants to wear Posh spices outfits, as the 'nutter' who thinks skeletal is attractive.
I concede that their are a number of anorexic people who are seeking the 'image' but i wanted to show that there is another side to the story and that not all anorexics (or another other eating disorder for that matter) are the same.
Yes this caught me during a crisis period of my life where every day i need to make sure that I have 3 meals a day. I've been honest with my family this time and at lunch my daughter always calls for a chat and now she also to asks what ive had for lunch.
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Date: 2009-05-07 04:23 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2009-05-07 11:32 am (UTC)I really want to growl at that statement. Growl and stamp my feet, scream and shout.
Not all anorexics are in a competition to be smaller/thinner. There is a significant percentage that are anorexic and it have nothing to do with appearance or weight.
Anorexia is about control or rather lack of control. When your life is spiraling out of control and you need to gain control anorexia can take control. Controlling food may be the only thing in your life you have control over.
Unconsciously it can also be a way to disappear, be invisible or even be a (very slow painful) way to kill yourself.
I'm 38 and although I am a healthy weight now I had 12 years of hell and even now I still consider myself anorexic as every time my life falls apart I have an unhealthy relationship with food.
I've never tried to look like the latest skinny celeb or tried to get to hit a certain mark on the scales, but every time i see/hear those generalizations about my condition it riles me. For years i hid my condition because i was ashamed, scared i would be labeled vain, as the girl who wants to wear Posh spices outfits, as the 'nutter' who thinks skeletal is attractive.
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Date: 2009-05-07 03:27 pm (UTC)I concede that their are a number of anorexic people who are seeking the 'image' but i wanted to show that there is another side to the story and that not all anorexics (or another other eating disorder for that matter) are the same.
Yes this caught me during a crisis period of my life where every day i need to make sure that I have 3 meals a day. I've been honest with my family this time and at lunch my daughter always calls for a chat and now she also to asks what ive had for lunch.
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Date: 2009-05-08 10:08 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2009-05-08 10:26 pm (UTC)I heard a R4 drama based on a blog today, about bipolar, and it was very interesting. If you have heard it I'd love to know whether it rings true.
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Date: 2009-05-08 09:25 am (UTC)