Line in the sand

[ailbhe]

I've decided that I am just not going to accept "hitting children" or "physically assaulting children" as something grownups can't help doing. If I'm losing my temper that badly, I need help. I have a list of excuses, reasons or triggers as long as anyone's arm, but that doesn't make it ok, and I am allowed to insist that no-one persuade me that it's actually ok to hit children sometimes.

I really, really don't want them to grow up thinking it's ok to hit children "if you're cross enough" or something. I don't want them to fight the same urge to hurt I have to fight.

Also, I want everyone to breathe properly so I can get some sleep, please.

Comments

[flybabydizzy.livejournal.com]

This.
and more hugs and love.
I'm struggling to forgive myself for the way I treated my kids - but they seem to have forgiven me.

[biascut.livejournal.com]

My mum spent my late twenties thinking of things she'd done wrong and needed to apologise for! They were always things I'd completely forgotten, and not the things I genuinely remembered as making a big impression on me!

(The things that made a big impression on me weren't necessarily things she did "wrong", but looking back I suspect they were throwaway comments to endless streams of questions that for some reason I picked up on as deadly serious and important and it was years before I was old enough to put a context to them. You never know what your kids are going to remember as significant!)