Mum's Tuck Box

[ailbhe]

In spite of my gut-reaction being negative, I think I will have a private stash of special food children aren't allowed to raid. They are good about my private things, like my desk and my art materials.

It just feels wrong to do it with food.

But I really need to know that when I stumble irritably towards the cereal bars, they'll be there, and not have the tops bitten off to see which one is nicest.

Comments

[barakta]

I can understand your reluctance but if having Private Mum Food helps with your mental health and makes it less likely you'll have scary rage I think your children benefit from that. Your children don't mean any malice by opening everything and eating it - or not - but they are too young yet to understand the implications of that.

I'm also a fan of people having their private things, both adults AND children and have each side respect those things where safe and practical.

ObAnecdata: I find as an adult people who grew up in households with some kind of recognised 'reasonable limit' on snacks are less annoying as adults as they will remember there's X people in the house so each person reasonably can have Y portions of snacks and don't go and eat them all. People who didn't have any kind of restrictions in my experience often eat more than their fair share of things because it just doesn't occur to them to consider anyone else.

In my household there's food I am not allowed to eat, so my partner has guaranteed food that she can eat. Some things I can have all but the last n portions of and some it's "usually none at all". I can eat much more than my partner can, and food being a VeryDifficultThingTM for her means that having reserved food is as much about safety as it is about simplicity, access to it and so on. We have an agreement that if I ask for a share of $snack she is allowed to say "no" if her stocks are low or she is feeling insecure about it.

Hope this works out overall better for you and the bloody awful PMS fucks off soon, it really does sound very horrid for you.

[tiggsybabes.livejournal.com]

My mum's rules when I was a child was help yourself to the fruit bowl, tap water & squash that she'd made up & put into a jug in the fridge. Anything else had to be asked for. I respected the rules, my brother used to sneak biscuits & chocolate. He still lives at home & still lives on biscuits & crisps out of my parent's cupboards, so I think you're right. When we go & stay at my parents, I ask permission to use any food that we haven't bought.

[sfred]

This sounds like a good arrangement. There are some foods where I'd be upset to find I'd run out when I wasn't expecting to have run out.

[eavanmoore.livejournal.com]

My mother used to discourage us from drinking a lot of cranberry juice, because she genuinely needed it for health reasons. I could respect that.