Nasty mummy

[ailbhe]

Linnea wants a nasty mummy again. One who will let her poo in her pants. Riiiiiight.

But none of the other mummies I named will do because none of them have a trike, apparently.

So she'll have to make do with me when I'm cross.

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I wish I had a clue what she's processing with this. Mean, bad or nasty mummies allow her to misbehave, apparently, and good mummies get cross when she misbehaves. Nasty mummies would let her get hurt, apparently, and good ones make her stay safe. I am definitely a good mummy, which is WHY I get cross.

I have no idea where this is coming from. I haven't even had a parenting-theory conversation in front of her for weeks, since I can't talk about anything now without being pretty sure she'll pick up on it.

It's nice that she thinks I'm a good mummy, and that she thinks I'm her best friend, and that she thinks I'm one of her favourite people. But where's this Nasty Mummy stuff coming from?

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[supermouse.livejournal.com]

Other people's children, I assume - it sounds as though she's comparing and contrasting what she gets with what other people get. And mostly thinking herself on the greener side of the fence, which is refreshing.

I could be wildly, wildly wrong with this, it's just the answer that leapt obviously to mind and it won't dislodge with more considering.

[songster.livejournal.com]

Could even be simpler that that.

"My Mummy is good. My Mummy doesn't let me do X. Therefore any Mummy who does let me do X isn't good."

Just playing the concept of opposites/hypotheticals in general?

[biascut.livejournal.com]

Or attempting to comprehend the whole business of your love for each other and the fact that her desires aren't always in tune with yours. She knows there are things that she wants to do that you don't let her do, she knows that you love her and that you want the best for her, but the cognitive leap of "mummy won't let me do this because even though I want to in the short-term, it's bad for me in the long-term" is too big for her at the moment. Perhaps it's just a step in developing a super-ego - at some stage, she's going to take personal responsibility for that level of impulse control - but at the moment, the ideas of "good for me, bad for me" are still externalised and personified as you, so when she talks about Nasty Mummy, she's experimenting with thinking about what would happen if she were allowed to indulge her impulse control, prior to taking personal responsibility for it?

Does that make any sense at all?

[tiggsybabes.livejournal.com]

On a bit of an aside, Kate's 7 year old boyfriend came with us to the racecourse yesterday to walk Barney & told me on the way home that he'd pooed his pants. He just had to carry on walking & when I told his mum, she says it's quite normal for him & for me not to worry.

Kate flings "I don't like you & want another mummy" when I've thwarted her plans.