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Jan. 19th, 2008 04:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ailbheIf you were in a position to retaliate in kind (or to some proportionate degree) against someone who severely injured or hurt you or someone close to you, would you want to, why (or why not), and would it help you achieve closure if needed?
I assume that by "retaliate in kind" you don't mean "chase with the full force of the law and a very toothy prosecuting lawyer." In that case...
I find fantasising about that sort of thing useful in the initial stages of hurt, but I don't think it does any good long-term. I don't think I'd actually do it. There are various reasons, the main one of which is that I don't want to reduce myself to their level. It wouldn't actually reverse the wrongs done to me or mine, and it would undoubtedly involve legal repercussions so that I'd end up dealing with shit for a decade longer than if I just learned to live with the hijjus facts and moved on with the rest of my life.
I assume that by "retaliate in kind" you don't mean "chase with the full force of the law and a very toothy prosecuting lawyer." In that case...
I find fantasising about that sort of thing useful in the initial stages of hurt, but I don't think it does any good long-term. I don't think I'd actually do it. There are various reasons, the main one of which is that I don't want to reduce myself to their level. It wouldn't actually reverse the wrongs done to me or mine, and it would undoubtedly involve legal repercussions so that I'd end up dealing with shit for a decade longer than if I just learned to live with the hijjus facts and moved on with the rest of my life.