I think learning to accept your parents as who they are is really important.
I have always been aware that my father finds emotions difficult to express and will show his love in other ways, sometimes materialistic, sometimes with his time. Just because he is quiet and introverted doesn't mean he doesn't think and feel things.
Yes, accepting that he is who he is is important. I know, for example, that I must never let him near my children, or into my house; one reason for marrying legally was to make sure he wasn't my next of kin. Our wills nominate non-family guardians to make sure the kids are safe, too.
I can really understand that. Some parents should not have access to any life-changing decisions in their childrens/grandchildrens lives. You will be about the tenth person who has willed something, or had marrying to keep dangerous/nutty parents away from them. My mum willed our care to her beloved twin if it came to it, I wonder if that was a subconscious that realisation that my Granddad was too violent to children...
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Date: 2007-04-01 12:17 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2007-04-01 03:18 pm (UTC)I have always been aware that my father finds emotions difficult to express and will show his love in other ways, sometimes materialistic, sometimes with his time. Just because he is quiet and introverted doesn't mean he doesn't think and feel things.
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Date: 2007-04-01 08:38 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2007-04-01 09:03 pm (UTC)