storbarnsförälder

I agree wholeheartedly with you, but I think the problem is that we've seen, especially on LJ, that a lot of women are touchy. They get bad advice, cling to it, have failures from it, then throw up their hands, quit and shriek "don't judge me!!!"

Don't judge, sure. But having these failure stories sitting out there in breastfeeding and other such communities is bad news for people looking for help. But if anyone dares say "wow, I'm sorry, but for anyone else reading, it was probably X that caused Y which led to Z." where Z = supply tanking or intractable nipple soreness or whatever led to the quitting then there are always certain people who will jump up to immediately label that as an attempt to shame and blame, rather than an attempt at community education.

I don't know how to settle that problem. The person who can fix that will rule the world.