yeah, the committment itself is rather more important to us, though really, that's more of a result than a cause anyway. making it public didn't matter at all, which is why we did it in private on a semi-randomly chosen date (cool numbers!) that worked well for us. having a wedding wouldn't even have been "nice", because we just don't subscribe to the same ideas as the paramour's traditional family, i am divorced from mine, and we didn't feel like catering to any of that standard stuff, or battling with relatives over how this should happen. too much stress. we're together for us, not for anyone else. nevermind that polyamorous vows would have been cause for yet more strife, *heh*. *shudder*.
and the committment didn't happen on a single day, it was something that developed gradually over time, so there is no day to celebrate.
also, i don't do symbols very well. they never matter as much to me as they seem to matter to so many other people. what somebody says to me on "that special day" can never even remotely be as important as how zie acts towards me on every normal day.
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Date: 2006-07-05 10:02 pm (UTC)and the committment didn't happen on a single day, it was something that developed gradually over time, so there is no day to celebrate.
also, i don't do symbols very well. they never matter as much to me as they seem to matter to so many other people. what somebody says to me on "that special day" can never even remotely be as important as how zie acts towards me on every normal day.