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ailbheI am I - but what is Kim, Kim, Kim?
If I knew I'd write and tell Rudyard.
I am very into if. I like to have plans in place for all possible and many impossible contingencies. I make plans, and then have plans specifically for if the plans fail. This made an unforeseeable childbirth disaster particularly unpleasant.
Ideas used to be more important to me than they are now. Now I rely on behaviours an awful lot.
Ideals, on the other hand, are very important to me - and I don't know of any other way to shape my behaviours than to try to live up to my ideals. I met a woman once whoh claimed she always lived up to all her ideals. I didn't have the courage to ask what they were.
Important is a slippery thing. I tend to judge people very heavily based on what their behaviour shows they believe to be important - this is why it's a good idea to treat children as well as you treat adults around me, and why I won't believe you have huge environmental ideals if you don't at least recycle, etc.
Intimacy is peculiar, too. I seem particularly fond of the kind of intimacy that can only be achieved by talking until after 3 in the morning. I did this once with Iain, who is now dead. I'd say poor Iain, but I believe he's a lot less miserable now. Unfortunately, this kind of intimacy is often transitory, but I really enjoy it just the same.
I also enjoy the kind of intimacy that means I can look at someone and exchange whole lengthy conversations without actually speaking.
And I hate the use of "intimate" to mean "sex". I've had some very non-intimate sex. Some of my most intimate moments have taken place with no physical contact at all.
If I knew I'd write and tell Rudyard.
I am very into if. I like to have plans in place for all possible and many impossible contingencies. I make plans, and then have plans specifically for if the plans fail. This made an unforeseeable childbirth disaster particularly unpleasant.
Ideas used to be more important to me than they are now. Now I rely on behaviours an awful lot.
Ideals, on the other hand, are very important to me - and I don't know of any other way to shape my behaviours than to try to live up to my ideals. I met a woman once whoh claimed she always lived up to all her ideals. I didn't have the courage to ask what they were.
Important is a slippery thing. I tend to judge people very heavily based on what their behaviour shows they believe to be important - this is why it's a good idea to treat children as well as you treat adults around me, and why I won't believe you have huge environmental ideals if you don't at least recycle, etc.
Intimacy is peculiar, too. I seem particularly fond of the kind of intimacy that can only be achieved by talking until after 3 in the morning. I did this once with Iain, who is now dead. I'd say poor Iain, but I believe he's a lot less miserable now. Unfortunately, this kind of intimacy is often transitory, but I really enjoy it just the same.
I also enjoy the kind of intimacy that means I can look at someone and exchange whole lengthy conversations without actually speaking.
And I hate the use of "intimate" to mean "sex". I've had some very non-intimate sex. Some of my most intimate moments have taken place with no physical contact at all.