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[ailbhe]

Today went well - I have a period, so I missed the first day of Linnea's new term of swimming lessons. In theory I could just take the codeine I still have and use a tampon and go, but in practice this is all a bit much to face. So I stayed home and played with Linnea instead.

She eats apples now. It's tremendous fun. She holds up this thing the proportionate size of a melon and gnashes the whitest, straightest teeth you ever saw and chomps in. And she plays hide-and-seek around me - or around guests - and is delighted when she finds me, or I find her. She particularly likes it when I hide somewhere unmotherlike, such as under the table.

She loves being pinned down and having her tummy snuzzled into, and I can't think of a better legal way to get an instant mood-lifter.

Today the NCT coffee group met in my house and we were discussing birth, as we so often do, and I remarked that next time will be easier because I'll have a c-section, and someone said that a c-section would be harder. I had no patience left and snapped "Well, I saw women with c-sections walk the day they delivered, and sit up in bed and drink tea, even, so." I left it at "so" because my dialect likes that. I now think I ought to apologise.

Also, My Infertile Friend came over. She's great, I love her, and one reason is that I am able to say "Hey, you're the infertile one. It took me more than twice as long as you to get pregnant the first time, and you're well along in your second pregnancy and I haven't even been able to think about deciding when I want a second one because it's out of the question for now. Why are you the infertile one and not me?" She think that this is a reasonable question and didn't punch me in the nose. Because actually, she *is* infertile, in her own special way, and I'm not, really. If I had an unlimited pain threshold, I could have delivered my second baby by now, and be wondering about the third. Or fourth, if the second one was twins.

I am very angry with the universe. But there's fresh bread cooling in the breadmaker, so you never know, I may regain sanity soon. I've had about a hundredweight of chocolate already, which probably helps.

Oh - and have I ever mentioned how much I love Cynthia Heimel?

Comments

[livi-short.livejournal.com]

I get broody when i read your entries, but in a nice way.

I miss the girls being tiny, i want to have a toddler around the house again as everything is new and exciting... but i am now really enjoying being the parent of teenagers. It does get stressful, but it is a lot of fun too, and watching them take their first steps into a relationship is nice, especially as they both talk to me about everything (yep even the difficult things).

[k425.livejournal.com]

But if things had been different, would you really have wanted to have had your second baby by now, already? While L is still so young, and fresh, and exciting?

[ailbhe]

Certainly within the next 3 or 4 months, yes. Particularly since she's not going to get any less exciting, and had that been possible I'd have been a lot less sick for her early months, too.

I wanted to start on the next one as soon as possible. When I realised that was going to be many months, I was devestated. Now I know it might be years.

[rosefox]

Doesn't breastfeeding make it harder to get pregnant? Or am I misremembering?

[livi-short.livejournal.com]

I was breast feeding and i fell pregnant again when my first baby was about 9 months old.

[bopeepsheep.livejournal.com]

It can, by suppressing ovulation (no ovulation, definitely no pregnancy, obviously!). Not a guaranteed thing, but an accepted contraceptive method within the first six months post-partum, if all the factors are met. After that, it's a bit hit and miss as a method of contraception, not quite as problematic if the objective is conception.

ailbhe - hugs. I just read your entry about your f-list, and I hope the rest of the month goes well for you. Hopefully we'll 'see' you again properly sometime in May.

[ailbhe]

In theory. But I ovulated the day Linnea was 7 weeks old.

[k425.livejournal.com]

I'm lazy! Two under two would cause me the crazies!

{hugs} especially now.

[baratron.livejournal.com]

Today the NCT coffee group met in my house and we were discussing birth, as we so often do, and I remarked that next time will be easier because I'll have a c-section, and someone said that a c-section would be harder.

For fuck's sake. Does that person KNOW your birth story? If not, she(?) should be told. In graphic detail.

No, you don't need to apologise. Although if said person tells other people that you're "touchy", you should have it filtered down to them just how fucking awful it was for you and how c-section would actually let you deliver without almost dying, thankyouvermuch.

[meirion.livejournal.com]

thanks for saying this. it means i don't need to try to work out how to say it without advocating violence :-/

were it not for the existence of c-section, my best friend *would* be dead.

-m-

[mollydot.livejournal.com]

Yeah, if she knows, she's the one who should apologise. If she doesn't, you could explain. If you want to. Or, as baratron said, have it filtered.

[pir-anha.livejournal.com]

don't apologise. she's the one who was thoughtless. it's good you have people like your infertile friend. :) and, of course, linnea to snuzzle.

cynthia heimel rocks!

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

I get all big-fanged when people say stupid things about c-sections. I've had one, so I bloody well know about them. People say some _dumb_ things. The woman you snarled at was one of them. I'd have snarled, too, in your situation.

[rmc28]

Fresh bread solves many ills.

Like others have said, I don't think you should feel a need to apologise. But if you wanted to explain to her, maybe she'd not say things like that again.

*hugs* thinking of you.

[glitzfrau.livejournal.com]

I left it at "so" because my dialect likes that.

I love our dialect. Don't apologise, confuse!