Still not well
Mar. 27th, 2005 12:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ailbheI really need to work the concept of "sick leave" into my contract. Like, maybe at night. I'msure if I got more than 5 hours sleep in a row (or even as many as 5 hours sleep in a row) I'd have recovered from this lurgy already; Rob and Linnea both have.
A few things happened over the weekend: I observed my friends N and L buying a carseat for their daughter, and the saleswoman remarked to him "Spending your money, eh?"
L responded "Our money," and N reiterated that, and I seethed because, apart from anything else, N is what we call a "working mother" and does actually earn money as well as all the less obvious contributions she makes. I did manage to remark "It's always nice to feel that your financial contribution to the household is irrelevant," but I fear I sounded more petty than aloof, because I felt petty. Very petty. (1) Even if the assumption that they were a one-at-home-one-at-work was correct, and that the home one was female, there's a further assumption that L is the kind of man who would allow his partner - wife - to do a job as demanding as "housewife and mother" full-time without respite and force her to ask for every penny and that N is dimwitted enough to marry someone like that. And they're not. He's a nice, civilised man, and N is one of the brighter people of my acquaintance. (2) The assumption was wrong anyway. Duh.
Seethe.
Sunshine and roses: Linnea can stack her stacking cups! This is quite a tricky manouvre (which I can't spell). She has been able to slot them into each other for ages, and dismantle a tower of them one cup at a time, but while I was out buying a swing yesterday, she stacked five cups on top of each other. Then she knocked them down, hurrah!
There is a swing in our garden which doesn't really fit, truth be told. But it's a great success with Linnea, and Rob managed to defuse a tantrum with it today. We will still be going ot the playgrounds though. The swing in our garden is only good up to 35 kg, and I weigh about 55kg, I think. At least, I did when I was 8 weeks pregnant, and I have a lot more muscle on now.
Rob and I bought a tent, sleeping bags and sleeping mats for CCDE. Lightweight is the main consideration. We're beginning to wonder how we're going to get Linnea there. We'll manage somehow. There's probably a taxi firm that has carseats, or something. Or one of us could maybe walk with her in a carrier of some kind.
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Date: 2005-03-27 11:50 am (UTC)CCDE
Date: 2005-03-27 12:24 pm (UTC)But we'll figure something out.
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Date: 2005-03-27 07:48 pm (UTC)Grah! Hulk Smash!
Idiocy, that's what that is. And sexism. Funnily enough nobody says the reverse, even in the cases where it's true.
I'm the major breadwinner for this household.
(I was just saying the other day how our situation is actually reasonably unusual, yet nobody remarks on it, and even if they did, we wouldn't care. We've just always done what suits us as a family.)
Nobody remarks on it
Date: 2005-03-27 08:00 pm (UTC)Grr indeed. I'm amazed at how calmly N took it, really, though she was a bit upset. I wasn't upset, I was *furious*.
Re: Still not well
Date: 2005-03-27 09:32 pm (UTC)*seethe* is right. i cannot stand feeble attempts at bonding by people who can't come up with something better than an old sexist stand-by. i am working up to being able to say "i know you mean well, but that's a really sexist remark, and we're not the kind of people who want to perpetuate those", instead of making some snarky remark to make the person feel bad.
yay for the stackmeister!
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Date: 2005-03-27 09:48 pm (UTC)If we can co-ordinate our arrivals, I can collect you from the station. Rhiannon has a Britax Eclipse SI.
We've not yet really thought beyond 'we are going to CCDE this year, with the dog and the baby.' I need to decide what we're going to do about nappies - do I take all cloth and spend half the weekend in a laundrette, or invest in some Moltex or something in between.
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Date: 2005-03-27 11:27 pm (UTC)I am always careful to avoid writing that word.
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Date: 2005-03-29 09:12 am (UTC)Manoeuvre!
And once again she's way ahead of
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Date: 2005-03-29 04:40 pm (UTC)We'll always have Paris
Date: 2005-03-29 09:26 pm (UTC)Re: We'll always have Paris
Date: 2005-03-30 10:55 am (UTC)We'll always have Paris...
Date: 2005-03-30 05:24 pm (UTC)Comfort Hotel Gare de l'Est
31 Boulevard De Strasbourg
Paris 75010
France
I am given to understand that a smoke-free eating place will be impossible. The dietary restriction is dairy - no dairy.
Rob is very easy-going and likes everyone I like. You'll like him :)
A.
Re: We'll always have Paris...
Date: 2005-03-30 09:34 pm (UTC)Re: We'll always have Paris...
Date: 2005-03-30 10:30 pm (UTC)Re: We'll always have Paris...
Date: 2005-03-31 06:50 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-03-29 09:02 pm (UTC)"to make a hollow laughing"
As for the rest.... well, it's been said, aintit?
"when I'm queen of the universe"....
LBs
Julie (paradox from afp)