Just a minute, there -

[ailbhe]

If anything you post to a public forum starts with "I hope [the party whose information you're posting] won't mind me posting this here," you need to stop posting and start asking permission.

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[buzzy-bee.livejournal.com]

Quite. Of course now I wonder whether I should delete said post (as community maintainer) on that basis, with a little note that permission should be sought...

[buzzy-bee.livejournal.com]

Having checked out the post, it does link to a public journal entry, so I won't delete, though your point is still completely right.

[epi-lj.livejournal.com]

Corollary:

If your post starts with, "I know that this is off-topic, but...," you probably shouldn't post.*

* There are some exceptions, such as forums where it's generally known that there is a community feeling being fostered and nobody bothers adhering to the topic.

[epi-lj.livejournal.com]

See also:

"I know that you're really busy, but..."

[ailbhe]

"I know I shouldn't do this, but..."

[kelvix.livejournal.com]

my current favourite is "I'm not being funny, but..." prefacing a bitchy comment or objection

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

"I don't want to be rude, but... "

The last time someone tried that on me, I cut in with "... but you're going to be anyway. Do go on."

They stopped dead.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Amen.

How's the bambina? The one I'm spennding time with this week reminded me of the others whose parents I know.