The Wedding Planner, and Fashion
May. 5th, 2003 02:30 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ailbheI recently invested in "Miss Manners on (Painfully Proper) Weddings" in a fit of pique, and am gratified to find that all the things I have refused to do because they are nasty and/or tacky are roundly condemned in that elevated tome. Like sending gift lists with the invitations, and telling female guests what colours they are not allowed to wear. Yeurgh. I wanted world domination, not world micro-management.
In other news, the ceremony has more or less been finalised, and I just need to remind Rob to ask his cousins what they'd like to sing and could they send us a copy of the lyrics, and I need to ask my aunt whether she is willing and fit to read at such an agnostic ceremony, and I need to contact the registrar and find out whether they will approve the ceremony as not mentioning gods or other deity-like entities.
I also need to wait for someone to sell me a silk blouse. I want at least one new silk top to wear on the honeymoon. Oh, and I need to buy Rob some shirts, too. And...
This morning, we went through all our clean clothes and sorted them into "I never wear this but it's too good to get rid of", charity bag, rubbish, and "This actually belongs in my wardrobe". The first category have been relegated to a crate under the bed, and if Rob's not looking, I will accidentally charity-bin them at some point.
A lot of my clothes, on mature reflection, were rubbish. So I binned them. And a bunch of the rest are just waiting for me to brave buying a pair of jeans. I dread this, because I have the wrong figure. I have what a John Cleland might call ample buttocks, but most clothes aren't designed for them - and no-one can tell me that "Kylie has a big bum too you know, it must be fashionable" because I've tried and it's not. The trousers aren't out there. I need to go to a specialist Levis shop that sells the seventy-two different shapes for different shaped people and buy two pairs of jeans that actually fit.
Trying on the ones that don't fit is so daunting that I haven't faced up to the challenge yet. If I ever do, you will be the first to know.
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Date: 2003-05-05 07:21 am (UTC)Ebay is your friend :-) I'm not kidding, I've sold a load of stuff on there!
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Date: 2003-05-05 12:15 pm (UTC)I don't quite have anything that fits into this category, though I do have a few things I've never worn because I might need some halfway respectable interview clothes if I ever get round to applying for a better job.
A lot of my clothes, on mature reflection, were rubbish. So I binned them.
Oh, I wish I could do this. The trouble is, the only shop I can buy clothes from is Evans, and some years nothing they sell fits me. This is true this year - all the tops are too short on me, all the bottoms are too long (with features at the bottom that make it hard to shorten them), nearly all the armholes are too tight. So the real possibility arises of last year's clothes wearing out & having nothing to wear to work. So the rubbish has to stay, alas.
Much worse, though, are the clothes now repacked in one of the movers cardboard boxes I moved into this flat with, that I can't chuck in the bin for *sentimental_reasons*. (Yes, really.) All of them are either literally dropping to bits or really don't fit any more, but have been cherished garments I wore and loved, including a couple of handmade sweaters with my own designs on them that I can't quite bear to part with.
I applaud your decisiveness :-)
Trying on the ones that don't fit is so daunting that I haven't faced up to the challenge yet.
Oh, I know what you mean. You have my sympathies. Good luck.
And I hope the wedding goes really well.
On throwing away clothes
Date: 2003-05-06 07:58 am (UTC)Re: On throwing away clothes
Date: 2003-05-06 10:47 am (UTC)I suspect your clothes last longer than mine. I tend to have a few things each year that aren't great quality to start with, end up getting worn to death, and then don't look respectable enough to wear to work. The trick is to make them last until I have the opportunity to buy something to replace them with.
I should really stop moaning & start trying to make stuff. If I got any good at it I could maybe even have stuff I liked (shock, horror! :-)) I got as far as getting out the sewing machine the other day. It's a start, I suppose :-)
What are you planning to wear for the wedding, if I may ask?
Re: On throwing away clothes
Date: 2003-05-06 12:22 pm (UTC)The wedding dress is Simplicity Pattern 7068 - http://www.simplicity.com/s1b_mf.cfm and the link is near the bottom of the page. We're not making an overdress; it's going to be in white silk taffeta (white silk is less bright-white than white polyester) with silk lining. It won't have any decoration on it, either.
For any important garment, I more or less insist on it being handmade, as it's the only way it will really fit. My mother is a genius, which helps a lot.
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Date: 2003-05-06 02:47 am (UTC)I _do_ have a fat arse, I'm not denying it. I also have a (comparitively) tiny waist, with ten inches difference between the two.
They're brilliant for woman-shaped women.
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Date: 2003-05-06 08:51 am (UTC)Don't WANT presents
Date: 2003-05-06 09:12 am (UTC)Surely in some circumstances it's just more honest to give someone cash?
A.
Re: Don't WANT presents
Date: 2003-05-07 03:28 pm (UTC)In .il, cheques are given. Which sometimes strikes me as tacky, but it is useful.