This is just to say

I have been reading the post about rape and consent and stuff and all the comments, and thinking about the times in my own past when I failed to make consent clear by buying into the cultural structure which has seduction as a base and by ignoring my own involuntary "No" responses as "one of those involuntary things" rather than as "oh, look, part of me said no."

And then there were the times when I cajoled, seduced or persuaded, my own self.

I think I am going to work harder to make the "enthusiastic collaboration" model of consent the default. It will make a lot of people's sex lives simpler and a whole lot more fun.

Sometimes I think I could make a bigger difference if I were raising boys.

Friendslist meme

On this miserable summer's day, here is a list of 50 people on my LJ friendslist to whom I owe thanks.

I did notice, looking at my list, that there's no-one on my list whom I don't like for one reason or another. Even if I disagree strenuously with some of yiz :) That made me happy.
( That's a lot of people, but I'll probably have to do it again soon anyway, because I thought of lots of other things I left out this time! )

Holiday at home: Day Two

We brought the children to softplay. They climbed and slid and bounced and ran and swung and built and danced and it was marvellous. Rob had a lovely time with them -- he misses a lot of this stuff -- and they came home exhausted.

Then I made bread and Rob cooked dinner. He makes a really good curry now, no matter what we have in the house, and the bread came out perfect. It's the first proper bread we've had for over a week and we're all pleased.

Linnea and Emer are startling me and Rob by being much more grown-up than we knew they were. Emer's diction is improving hourly, it seems, and Linnea just... looks older. Suddenly.

DW/LJ crossposts

I had my first irritation at fragmented discussion today. I'm now considering directing LJ readers to comment at my Dreamwidth journal. But I don't want to do that either.

Other than that, I'm considering sending some of the less feelgood pomes to a local publisher. Can I handle rejection? I'm not very good at rejection, but this is a small local cooperative, so I looooove them.

Emer says

There's a little bit of toffee in your tea-tup.

New pome at http://pomes.dreamwidth.org/47176.html not duplicated in lnc