I rarely see anyone who doesn't blame the advice giver, or the advice. Unfortunately, that's still frequently interpreted as blame on the mother, because she (and her friends) throw up the "quit trying to make me feel guilty!" thing, even when no one is saying that the mother did anything wrong at all. Some people are incapable (or are unwilling) to see the difference between "the advice you got was wrong" and "what you did was wrong."