*nod* Yes, everyone is different. Mine healed fairly well, though I was quite incontinent for about 2 years after.

Your story sounds more like my best friend's. She had 4th degree tears, also listed as minor. She had repair surgery at 6 months, and then a repair of the repair at 11 months. They seriously screwed up with her. She even had trouble rolling over in bed for months. She has since vaginally delivered two more, so it can be done.

Good luck!