i'm a lot more in favour of valuing the different qualities of each individual regardless of gender.

and i'm with glitzfrau on this -- IMO it's impossible to determine whether there are innate gender differences as long as society works so hard to create them from the time children are born. none of us is an island, and we're influenced by the people around us. even if one pre-school teacher tries zir best to interact with kids without fixed notions of appropriate gender roles, all the other people in society, and of course the kids' parents, will have a strong effect.