When I was 15 I got pregnant and had an abortion. My widowed mother had to know all about it, and the extended family got to know, and 35 years later I am still ostracised by some, and looked down on by the rest. And yes, I do feel permanently, unforgivably guilty for killing my baby. I have a teenage daughter who was sexually active before her 16th birthday, despite my best efforts - too much like her mother. I reckon that as I had not done a good enough job bringing her up that she had sex too young, then I had failed her, and therefore would have invalidated any right to know what might have happened (tho it didnt). The right of the young person to secrecy and safety is greater than the parent's right to know, in my opinion. If I'm not a good enough mother for her to tell me, I wouldnt be a good enough mother to have a right to know.
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I have a teenage daughter who was sexually active before her 16th birthday, despite my best efforts - too much like her mother. I reckon that as I had not done a good enough job bringing her up that she had sex too young, then I had failed her, and therefore would have invalidated any right to know what might have happened (tho it didnt).
The right of the young person to secrecy and safety is greater than the parent's right to know, in my opinion.
If I'm not a good enough mother for her to tell me, I wouldnt be a good enough mother to have a right to know.