oh. *wry heh*. i see -- man, would i ever be tempted to get her back for that.

though i would probably prefer directness over revenge. i'd try and tell her how that sort of remark made you feel, and whether she'd like it if rob's shortcomings were blamed on her. maybe that would get through to her.

another thing i might try is to warn her that you've put up with this for 5 years, and are stressed out about it, and that if she continues, you will just walk out whenever she attempts to remodel rob vicariously through you. and then do it.