I have just read this, nodding all the way through.

You're right. You're absolutely right.

I hope that reading this post will make me stop and think the next time I am going to say something singularly unhelpful to another mum who happens to be doing something differently from the way I do/did it.

I'm not sure my sister-in-law has ever forgiven me for saying 'oh, what a shame' when she switched to formula feeding her baby. I knew at the time it sounded awful, but I just couldn't think of what else to say.

"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"

Thanks, Ailbhe. A welcomed kick up the backside for me!