To be fair, when I was younger I was absolutely appalled by the thought of any woman being a stay at home mother. I thought that feminism was all about having the best career possible and fitting in a couple of kids if you could be bothered. It took ailbhe for me to realise that choosing to be a SAH parent was a feminist choice as well.

I think where this came from was the fact that I've never wanted children for myself, so I assumed that all women were the same way really. You know, the "I think X therefore people in general must also think X" fallacy? I thought that women had children because it was expected, not that it could be something they might want for themselves. I suspect a lot of the "feminists" who are against the idea of stay at home parenting are also childfree and haven't yet realised that they are the unusual ones.